For some reason, I am really happy. I don't know why. Suddenly am falling down. Lights! Its a dream. Another one of my afternoon classroom naps. Yeah, that's right, Classroom naps. Something about the uncomfortable wooden benches makes sleeping a very meaningful and divine act. Especially, after you've rattled your head with Organic Chemistry.
So here I am, just awake from my slumber, when a moment of eureka struck me ( which is ironical ). I suddenly realized ( from an incident that had occurred previously in class), that people do what they do, sit where they sit, talk what they talk, influenced largely by the people around them . All this is in context of the classroom of course, but it also applies a lot to the larger world.
As you grow up, you meet many different kind of people. And as you meet many different kind of people, you begin to challenge your own thoughts, your own convictions and your own views and ideas. For example, when you're in school, you always hang out with the same kind of people. Mind you, the area where you're brought up, or the people around which you're brought up, makes up a lot of your ideas.
So in school, for instance, you are always with the same kind of people, with the same kind of views (generally). However, as you step out of your shell, and go into the bigger world, you meet up with different kind of people, where each and every view of your is constantly challenged, scrutinized and debated upon. This especially happens when you travel to a different part of the city. I am from the suburb of a city, while the classes I go to has students from the town part of the city too. We always end up contradicting each other on numerous issues. For instance, money, relationships, principles, way of life etcetera. Matters like, way of life and money spending form most of our disagreements. The town people, being from the town side, are generally richer than us suburbans. And hence, the divide on issues related to money.
What happens is, that this human brain is left vulnerable to impressions and relentless hours of soul searching. Now, its very obvious that when you tell something to someone repeatedly for a long period of time, your mind tends to accept what that other person is saying, out of sheer exhaustion of contradicting and trying to prove that you are right. So now if I proclaim in every blog, that I am an awesome writer, after ten posts, you'll believe me even if its not true.
This sometimes leaves one wondering whether the ideals or principles, or views he/she stand by are right or not. Now, there are some kind of people who won't budge on their views, be it right or wrong. They may also dismiss the other person's view point completely. Then there are other kind of people, the other extremes, who will just accept what others say, and make it their view point. And in between these two people, are the smart ones. The rare ones. The ones, who listen to that other person, reason out whether they themselves are right or wrong, and then try to alter themselves accordingly.
Then there's one more problem. When it comes to matter of life, or money, or principles, everyone is right in themselves. I mean, everyone has a way of life, everyone has their own principles, and you can't be haughty enough to brand them as right or wrong.
My main concern would be to know if I'm on the right path. Obviously, your views will lead you to different paths in life. If your views or stand is right, you'll sail through. Otherwise, you'll have to attend a class of the best teacher in the world- Experience ( which is quite painful, but once done with, awesomely beautiful ).
In the end, its really difficult to ascertain whether to change yourself on some issue or not. Of course, there are the easy decisions, where you know you're wrong, and where you can change. But when it comes to principles, philosophies, and other intellectual-blow-your-mind-to-big-pieces stuff, its tough to take a call. So what do you do at that time?
Sleep.
Which is what I did, after thinking about all this.
P.S- On a serious note, I would welcome advice on this.
So here I am, just awake from my slumber, when a moment of eureka struck me ( which is ironical ). I suddenly realized ( from an incident that had occurred previously in class), that people do what they do, sit where they sit, talk what they talk, influenced largely by the people around them . All this is in context of the classroom of course, but it also applies a lot to the larger world.
As you grow up, you meet many different kind of people. And as you meet many different kind of people, you begin to challenge your own thoughts, your own convictions and your own views and ideas. For example, when you're in school, you always hang out with the same kind of people. Mind you, the area where you're brought up, or the people around which you're brought up, makes up a lot of your ideas.
So in school, for instance, you are always with the same kind of people, with the same kind of views (generally). However, as you step out of your shell, and go into the bigger world, you meet up with different kind of people, where each and every view of your is constantly challenged, scrutinized and debated upon. This especially happens when you travel to a different part of the city. I am from the suburb of a city, while the classes I go to has students from the town part of the city too. We always end up contradicting each other on numerous issues. For instance, money, relationships, principles, way of life etcetera. Matters like, way of life and money spending form most of our disagreements. The town people, being from the town side, are generally richer than us suburbans. And hence, the divide on issues related to money.
What happens is, that this human brain is left vulnerable to impressions and relentless hours of soul searching. Now, its very obvious that when you tell something to someone repeatedly for a long period of time, your mind tends to accept what that other person is saying, out of sheer exhaustion of contradicting and trying to prove that you are right. So now if I proclaim in every blog, that I am an awesome writer, after ten posts, you'll believe me even if its not true.
This sometimes leaves one wondering whether the ideals or principles, or views he/she stand by are right or not. Now, there are some kind of people who won't budge on their views, be it right or wrong. They may also dismiss the other person's view point completely. Then there are other kind of people, the other extremes, who will just accept what others say, and make it their view point. And in between these two people, are the smart ones. The rare ones. The ones, who listen to that other person, reason out whether they themselves are right or wrong, and then try to alter themselves accordingly.
Then there's one more problem. When it comes to matter of life, or money, or principles, everyone is right in themselves. I mean, everyone has a way of life, everyone has their own principles, and you can't be haughty enough to brand them as right or wrong.
My main concern would be to know if I'm on the right path. Obviously, your views will lead you to different paths in life. If your views or stand is right, you'll sail through. Otherwise, you'll have to attend a class of the best teacher in the world- Experience ( which is quite painful, but once done with, awesomely beautiful ).
In the end, its really difficult to ascertain whether to change yourself on some issue or not. Of course, there are the easy decisions, where you know you're wrong, and where you can change. But when it comes to principles, philosophies, and other intellectual-blow-your-mind-to-big-pieces stuff, its tough to take a call. So what do you do at that time?
Sleep.
Which is what I did, after thinking about all this.
P.S- On a serious note, I would welcome advice on this.
According to me, we need to always stand by the things we've been brought up to believe in, from the time we're young. As we grow up, we tend to think that the values, concepts, ideas taught to us in our childhood are old-fashioned and out-dated, because of our own experiences and interactions in life; but then, when we're much older, we realise that what we'd been brought up to believe wasn't really that far from the truth in the first place.
ReplyDeleteOur way of looking at life changes constantly. You may find that a value you held on to as a kid, doesn't make sense today, becoz it's not in line with the current trends, and so you may alter your way of thinking. Sometimes, the change ends up being a wise decision. At other times, it may just seem foolish to change your beliefs based on what others think, feel or say.
I guess, my way of dealing with this kind of a situation has always been to stick to what I believe in. Of course, I listen to what the world has to say, but the final decision is always mine. It's never shaped by my peers, or society or situations.All decisions are not easy to take but whether it's the right one or the wrong one, if it's 'YOURS', you won't have to blame anyone for influencing your choices later. The only person who will be responsible will be yourself.
Changing with the times and situations is not always as 'cool' as it seems to be.Sometimes, you have to, but at most times, it's better to do what's the 'right' thing to do, rather than blindly following the trends.
.....And you know what, if you rely on what you've been taught by your parents, it's most likely that the decisions you take will never be the wrong decisions.
P.S. Some problem with the comment procedure today, so signing in an an anonymous comment. I bet you can figure out who writes such long comments though.
Thanks miss. That was helpful.
ReplyDeleteWhat also makes me ponder is, that everyone is brought up with different values. I mean, no parent teaches their kids wrong stuff. Then what is wrong what is right? Who decides that. Most of the times, it is clear to distinguish. However, there are some times when you just can't. I guess, that can be my next topic :P