I study in an only boys school, so you can imagine the amount of discomfort we have when we are with girls. It is not normal for us. For us, approaching a girl requires tremendous amount of self-confidence, guts and the courage to face failure. However, students of co-ed schools have no such feelings. They have been talking to girls since their childhood. The level comfort was evident from how they approached each other after the exams. I mean, the girls were like patting the boys' back and asking,"How was your paper?" I was like,"Physical Contact??"
But then I realized that it was quite normal for them to be so comfortable. I mean, they have been with each other for 12 years. Anyone would be comfortable after such a long time.
Which draws me to the inevitable question. Would it have been better if I was in a co-ed school?
I really don't know what would have been better. If I was in a co-ed school, I would have no problems approaching a girl in college. The level of vulgarity among boys would be much less because with girls around, you can't talk about anything and everything, right? The pressure of performing and the level of competitiveness would be much more too. I mean, I wouldn't like it if a girl beat me, so I would work harder.
However, being in a co-ed would mean more complexities and more difficulties. The obvious presence of girls in the class would be enough an excuse for the mind to go wandering. It would also mean early relationship, early heart-break, early problems etc.
So I think it was for the best that I went to a only-boys school. Having said that, it is not necessary that students in co-ed get spoilt. I have a few friends who have successfully resisted all this and are as-good-as-gold. At least they seem to be. But who knows........
Hmmmm..........That's a question almost every student who's been in an all-girls or all-boys school must have pondered on, on countless occasions.....I remember that when I was in school, I just couldn't wait to go to college, just because I wanted the co-ed experience as well.
ReplyDeleteYes, I'm sure co-education makes interaction with the opposite sex easier. One doesn't have to think a million times about how to break the ice and where to begin the conversation, because one has done it so often on a daily basis in school itself.........but you know what, nowadays with everyone going for classes with mixed groups, I don't think interaction is that much of a problem for most youngsters.
I sometimes look at the teenagers in my own building and wonder at how free they are with one another. At their age, we weren't that free with guys and vice-versa......so, I guess times are changing......and you know what, I think all-boys schools have their advantages too, don't you think???
u got a point there shaish .... but i thnk you got a few points wrong .... i noticed that from the lawrence batch i was in .... girls were equally vulgar ad fluent with bad words as boys ..
ReplyDeleteof course however there wernt any sexist jokes .. and it seems the girls have taken too many qualities from the boys for they too werent as dedicated and sincere in studies compared to the girls from skools lyk mary immaculate etc .
bt ya it wud have been better to have girls in skool ....at least we wud be able to talk with girls without peeing in our pants !
Yeah I guess you are right Karan...You were with them in classes, so you would be a better observer. I had this general perception that girls are not vulgar, because of the fact that I have interacted with girls of only-girls-school.
ReplyDeleteBut still I feel, that upbringing in a school with students of same gender is much better than co-ed. Because most of the people in co-ed schools get spoilt....
ya ..... so its better if u r in a guys skool bt go 2 classes wid girls frm girls skools ... this way ur comfortable talkin 2 girls and u still dnt end up spoilt .....
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