Why These Double Standards....?

Wow! I am three blogs old now and I know pretty much what to write. This post's heading is very similar to the previous post's heading. I was wondering what to write now and some experiences transformed into observations, which troubled me again. So here is Baba Shaishavdas' newest observation.

I will not be talking about the double standards of our political parties. No no. I am a Gandhi and I fear for my life. Considering the fate of most Gandhians I would not like to say anything that would bring death to me. I am going to talk about the double standards that all human beings ( including me) have. Well, at first blush, most of you will be like " I don't have any double standards!" However, I will be a little rude and tell you that you do have double standards. I won't blame you for those double standards though, as it is present in every human being.

The first double standard all human beings have is towards the rich. The fact that people become friendlier to their rich friends is quite evident and known and I am not going to talk about that double standard. I am going to talk about the difference in our behaviour when the same thing is done by a rich man ( and by rich I mean a millionaire or billionaire) My mom's friend's husband is a multi-millionaire. Thankfully, my mom's attitude towards her rich friend has not changed. They were never best friends, had differences and still have. This man always keeps social gatherings on New Years, Holi, Navratri etc. and we are invited to his parties. It was noticed by all that he wore the same sherwani in navratri this year that he had worn last year. And people started complimenting him and saying how simple and down to earth he was. Now figure this. If a normal man, say my dad would have worn the same sherwani for two consecutive navratri's, what would be the reaction? " Doesn't this fellow have any clothes? He seems to be poor. Can't afford any clothes" The same situation, same people who commented, different people who wore the same clothes and different opinions.

The second double standard that we have is our boys overwhelming behaviour towards girls. My friend got rejected by a girl. He tried again and got rejected again. However, he was still hopeful and wanted to try it for the third time too. I was shocked. I just gave him one example. If you came to me and asked for my friendship and I said no would you come back to me. Okay, maybe he might try again. If I said no to his friendship for the second time too what would he do? He told me he would assault me. I did not mind that sentence as I had conveyed my point and he agreed too. So why do we give special treatment to girls? Just yesterday I had a mind- blowing experience that rocked me and not in a good way. My friend wanted to bring his girlfriend to dinner after our annual day. However, his girlfriend only wanted few close friends. Because of her we KICKED out 6 people so that she would be comfortable. ( It was almost like kicking them out) So off we went happily to a restaurant and we came to know that she was coming for no reason at all. I was so angry and hurt. We tried calling our REAL friends back but they wouldn't come. Of course they wouldn't. Don't they have any self-pride? So why is it that we are so partial to girls who just disintegrate our friend circle??

All the double standards that I mentioned above are present in all of us. It comes naturally to us. And even though, I am writing these observations, I, at some point too, had these double standards. Hope, I after writing and You after reading won't have these double standards.